How Are You Sabotaging Your Progress When Trying to Change?
We have spent the last weeks looking at your internal dashboard and the scripts you perform for the world. Today, we are looking at one of the biggest saboteurs of the "High-Functioning Hollow": your profound impatience with change.
When we decide to heal a wound or shift a mindset, we often falsely equate the action of changing with the final outcome. We expect to go from an empty pot to plucking fruit in one immediate step.
Fixation to outcome
When we don't see instant results, we get frustrated. That frustration creates an unhealthy urgency that often drives us straight back into unskilful habits: working too much, eating too much, or scrolling endlessly. We end up suffocating the very change we are trying to enact.
In this week's video, we explore how to reframe our approach to change so that we stop digging up the seed to see if it is growing.
Watch my video to let it sink in: https://youtu.be/enL6GIAyEZU
If you suspect that your daily patterns are quietly sabotaging your desired outcomes, I invite you to take our Habits Quiz. It is a brief tool designed to help you identify the core behaviours that are keeping you trapped in a detrimental comfort zone.
Take the Free Habits Quiz here: https://www.essencepsychology.com.sg/habits-quiz-what-is-it
Your Reflection Piece:
Look at your actions over the last week. Are they promoting the likelihood that you will achieve your goals, or are they detracting from them?
I am currently exploring the deeper implications of being a "high-functioning" individual through the lens of my Integrative Essence Therapy framework.
My goal is to help people move away from a state of chronic adaptation constantly reacting to external demands toward a state of true internal alignment. Subscribe align your design.
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